February 12, 2014 by edhecht ·
I recently read an great article titled "The 6 Characteristics That Separate Successful People From The Rest Of The Pack" (click that title to read the original article), and I want to summarize it and share it with you. You might wonder how that title relates to Divorce, Child Custody and Family Law, and the answer is simple when you understand what the 6 Characteristics are:
*Frugality-making wise financial choices-especially if you're separated or divorced or a single parent. Don't live to impress others.
*Optimism-this is sooo important!! If you had a crystal ball showing your future and it looked amazing, would you feel excited today? Of course!! Well imagine your future as being amazing, imagine happier days ahead, and you'll start feeling optimistic and creating your own reality! And if you have kids, they need to see your optimism for your future as well as theirs! Whatever it is you're going through, you'll get through it! Don't let it take you down! And if you feel someone else caused it....don't let them have the satisfaction of bringing you down!
*Persistence-there's that song with the lyrics: "I get knocked down, but I get up again, nothing's ever gonna keep me down" and if you need to make that your personal motto, go for it! Remember those blow-up punching clowns as a kid where the bottom was filled with sand and you could punch it down but the sand at the bottom made it stand back up? Let that be you! If you feel life is knocking you down, just resolve that you're going to pop right back up. It really is all about attitude!
*Social Connections-stay connected! You have tons of people who care about you. Stay connected and reach out to them. Facebook is a great way for doing that. Get involved-your church, temple, kids' school PTA, health club.....just don't isolate yourself when you're going through something as tough as a divorce or custody battle!
*Passion-find something that excites you and throw yourself into it! A hobby, your work, something with your kids, etc. For me it's family law and helping people who are going through a tough time to get through it more easily than they would have without me. I'm passionate about protecting children who all too often get caught in a battle between their parents. As a divorce and child custody lawyer I see it all the time and it's heartbreaking. As a single Dad with 2 young children I relate to what people are going through when they come to see me, and I can share my own experiences and tips for getting through these tough times. So that's my own personal passion, helping you get through your divorce and/or child custody issues. What's your passion? Dive in!
*Intuition-as human beings we have a pretty good inner sense about right and wrong. A lot of it happens on a subconscious level, which we label as intuition or gut feeling. The problem is that a lot of times we override it with our conscious mind and that leads us to situations that cause problems down the road. You know what I'm talking about, we've all done it. The key going forward is to not ignore our inner voice and gut feeling, especially if you're going through a divorce or a custody issue, or if you have kids-because when you're a parent, every decision you make is going to impact your children, from the kind of person you date (will they lift you up or bring you down? Your kids will be affected either way!), the financial decisions you make (is that new car payment really the best thing or would that extra $400/month be better saved for your kids' summer camp, college, or an inexpensive car to get them to/from their job while in high school?), etc.
Do you see now how these topics about the attributes of successful people tie into your family law issue? In my work as a Divorce, Child Custody and Family Law attorney I help people who are going through a difficult time in their lives-whether it's a divorce, a child custody modification, a child support issue, a contempt action, etc., and the article is such a great reminder about the things that people who are really successful in life do that I wanted to share it with you and encourage you to adopt as many of these attributes into your own life as possible. It will make whatever situation you're going through much easier, and the future much brighter for you and your children!
If you or someone you know is facing a divorce, child custody modification, child support modification, or needs help with another family law matter, I can help. Contact me at Hecht Family Law at (678) 887-6200, email me firstname.lastname@example.org and/or use the Contact Us form on the right side of this page.