Talking to your spouse about the divorce process is difficult enough. When you have the responsibility of doing the same with your children, you're sure to find yourself facing even more challenges.
Since the well-being of your children should be a top priority, you'll want to follow these tips when discussing the divorce process:
- Have a plan: Don't go into this conversation blind. Instead, have a plan of what you want to say. You may not be able to stick to your script entirely, but it will at least give you a clear idea of the direction you want to take.
- Prepare to answer questions: Regardless of how old your children are, they're likely to have questions. Where will I live? Will I get to see mommy/daddy as much? Will you get back together in the future?
- Schedule the right time and place: Since this is likely to be an emotional conversation, block out a good portion of your schedule so you're not in a rush. Also, choose an appropriate place for the conversation, such as the comfort of your home.
- Don't tell lies or stretch the truth: It's hard to say something to your children that may make them feel sad, scared or angry, but lying or stretching the truth will only make things worse in the long run. Stick to the facts.
- Have the conversation with your spouse: Even though you're on the path to divorce, ask your spouse if they want to have this conversation with you. It's much easier to help your children through the process when you show that everyone is on the same page.
When you follow these tips, it's easier to ease the pain of telling your children about your divorce.
Once you do this, you can turn more of your attention to the divorce process. This includes details associated with child custody, child support, property division and more.
As long as you understand what to expect during your divorce, as well as how to protect your legal rights, you can make informed decisions that give you confidence that you're taking the best approach.